Bedtime and Kids: Is the Best Parenting Discipline Strategy Spanking?
By Kelly Nault

Positive Parenting Tip From Clinical Counselor, Award Winning Author and Motivational Speaker Kelly Nault:
 

Dear Frustrated Mom:
 

Sounds like your family is burning the midnight oil and the fuel that is firing up this conflict is your sons’ goal of power. The only question is, who will win?
 

My goal for you is to have you all win.
 

Resolving bedtime struggles is a common parenting question and is an epidemic problem that plagues most households. If it’s not one more story, it’s “ten more minutes” of their favorite TV show or dawdling in the bathroom. Children will also manage to get their babysitters to let them stay up long past their bedtime. To avoid being conned or manipulated try my approach:
 

1. Tell Them What You Are Going To Do.
   Say something like, “Part of what I love to do with you is read stories at bedtime, but sometimes I feel frustrated when bedtime takes a lot longer than it needs to be. So from now on I will be at your bedside promptly at ____p.m. to tuck you in. If you are not there at that time all ready to be tucked in, I will start getting ready for bed myself. If you would like a hug, you can come and find me for a quick one, but I will not return to your room.”
   
    

2. Parenting Follow Through. As you stated, be in their room on time. If you feel it's necessary, give them one five-minute warning. If they aren't ready at the specified time, leave—and be prepared to keep your mouth shut at all costs (regardless of tears, angry words, or pleads to be tucked in). Go into the bathroom, lock the door and get ready yourself. Give them one hug if they ask, then continue with your tasks. If they try to get you involved, simply say, “I’ll be happy to speak with you in the morning. Sweet dreams.” And that is all.
    

Lastly, know that your children will test you. Chances are your two boys will test you hard! Fortunately, this gives you the opportunity to be consistent in your new approach to discipline, kids, spanking and bedtime. As soon as your children realize that you are consistent in your new way to put them to bed, they will have no choice but to change their own.

 

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Kelly Nault, MA award winning parenting author of When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With You inspires moms to put themselves first—for the sake of their children. She shares time-tested tools that motivate children to want to be well behaved, responsible and happy! Sign up for her free online parenting course here.

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